I've been thinking and I have come to the conclussion that I can not force David to change but I can change the way I behave and that should have some effect on David's behavior. I think I need to stop and take a moment to think about why I am upset before I start yelling at David. I realize after I have blown up at him that I had no right to do it and it's much harder to take something back then to just have not done it in the first place. I also realize I am home a lot more and I could do a greater share of the cleaning. A clean house makes everyone feel better. I think if I express how excited I am for the baby maybe that will help David to be a little more excited. I really haven't come up with a solution for the working thing. I am fine with him getting a second job I just prefer it be in the evening not over night and that way I can work my schedule around it and I will be able to continue working. The amount of time he is spending away from home with Brandon isn't really something I can change. I guess the only thing I can do is make sure and have some me time. David doesn't care if I go out with friends, so I just need to put more effort into that. I think if I had a little bit of my own life I wouldn't be so jealous of David having his own. I have also realized that this makes no sense but it is making me feel better.
Be Proactive!...
11 years ago
1 comment:
Jess,
Don't stress your life into creating something out of nothing, you are very sensitive right now and everything seems very much intensified. You are uncomfortable and having a husband that is able to go out with his friends right now probably doesn't seem fair. You should take some time for yourself, you sound like you need some pampering but the hormones are probably making you a bit whiney...not unusual. You are carrying another life inside of you which is a wonderful gift. You should be pampered a bit...but don't expect the world to suddenly want to revolve around you. You know what you want and need to make yourself feel better, your poor husband is just a guy after all. I'm sure he enjoys the extra backrubs, does he know that it would make you feel better if he returned them? Probably not. I have gone through it and been around enough expectant mothers to know that this is a very moody phase. You will look back at your blog after this baby is born and say "OMG I said THAT!"
There will be lots of mood swings...what I said has probably got you on defense but a year from now you will proably say something similar to someone that is expecting. Take it as friendly advice, not critisism. I hope you have a lovely day and the rest of your pregnacy goes quickly for you and the delivery goes very smoothly.
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